We know that everyone means well when they’re offering advice, suggestions and help for your upcoming wedding, but sometimes having everybody’s two cents thrown in just compounds the stress that you’re already feeling. Let’s face it, planning a wedding is stressful. There are so many details to decide upon and take care of. So how do you manage the planning of your wedding and ensure that it turns out the way that you want it to? Following are a few tips to help keep things in check.
Remember who’s wedding it is
Yes, your parents are excited for the day, and your sister and best friend want to be involved, but at the end of the day, it’s your wedding, not theirs. Sure, you want them to celebrate with you and enjoy the experience, but don’t forget to be firm about what you want for your big day. Sometimes taking on other people’s ideas and help can snowball, and before you know it, they’ve taken over. Avoid this by creating clear boundaries, politely let them know that you’re running the show and that they need to check with you before putting any plans in place. Alternatively, if you don’t want any input, perhaps let them know that while you appreciate their input and desire to help, you would prefer to keep things under wraps to allow them to relax and enjoy the day – and not stress over details leading up to or on the wedding day.
Don’t let your guest list get out of control
Unless you have an unlimited budget and a massive venue, you need to keep your guest list under control. Who do you truly want to share this important day with? Who would you miss if they weren’t there? Most of us can relate to having fallouts amongst family or friends, and you don’t want this overshadowing your day – make sure that you’re mindful of this when creating your guest list, or laying out the seating. Again, it’s your day – you don’t need to invite anyone out of obligation or guilt.
Stick to your budget
It can be tempting to add a few extras here and there, but unless they’re essential, be strong. If you’re a bit flexible on your plans, you could swap out one thing for another to ensure you maintain the set budget.
Try to avoid borrowing money from family as this can make them feel as though they have the right to control what the money goes towards. Save the money up yourself, and save the stress – if you’re disciplined enough, save MORE than enough. This way you’re covered if any unforeseen expense should arise – and if this doesn’t happen, you’ll have extra money to go towards your honeymoon or new home together!
Use professionals to make the day run smoothly
Hiring a professional DJ not only gives you access to thousands of songs to suit your taste, their experience can also help to make those selections much easier, and the timing and transition of the music much smoother – from the ceremony through to the reception and following celebrations. They can also ensure that only pre-approved music gets played – so you don’t have to worry about any cliched or cringe-worthy music being requested.
At Black Tie Events, we love running a well-controlled room that’s light hearted and fun, giving the bride and groom a stress-free happy celebration! Give us a call today so you can tick one more item off your wedding planning list.